Understanding.

 - Have you ever put yourself in the shoes of the other person? To truly try to understand their pain. 

- Yes, oftentimes. 

- And what can you tell me about how it feels? 

- Oh, I could write a novel, my dear. I think is a gift that we, people who were so misunderstood during our lifetime, people who only wanted to express our truth without harming others, and with the sole desire to be understood, have. It is our life essence, it is like a light that comes from within; like you hold an entire sun within yourself. We have molded this capacity during times of intense suffering when we were ostracized by the simple fact that we don't agree with the 'normality' or the authority.  We were condemned for being honest, for expressing the needs and desires we had, and for saying out loud what others did not dare to say before us. This, my dear, is a personal hell. You can simply feel it in your heart and in your body. It is like pieces of flash are falling down and you get disintegrated. I can tell you it is a horrific pain. Especially if the ones that point the gun on your head are people you care deeply about. So once you go through this pain and come out alive, you cannot not put yourself in others' shoes. 

- Oh! That sounds indeed horrible! But who on Earth would inflict such pain on others? 

- Many do, and they are not even aware of it. They are people who cannot empathize, people who only see their pain and expect you to be there for them, but they forget to return the favor; people who forget to do their introspection; people who feel entitled for respect, but often forget that respect is earned. 

- I see...and what can we do to change or make these people see the truth? 

- Acceptance. You must accept that this is not in your power to change. Understand that the more you try the more pain you will inflict upon yourself. Understanding is key: understand that they are not capable of giving you what you need. Here is where healing starts.